Pregnancy Joys and Blues
Nathan was unplanned, and a great joy to us when we found out about the impending birth. For some reason I had though I couldn't have kids - no medical POV, a feeling. I had had an ectopic pregnancy, and almost lost my right tube, and just kind of assumed it would be really hard for me to conceive.. as time would tell I was a tad wrong!
I LOVED being pregnant with Nathan.
No morning sickness, which I have seen in others and is a total nightmare. NO weird pregnancy craving (there are more informative pregnancy craving articles out there, I just find this particularly funny... THOUGH I did have one evening where what I wanted - and incidentally and somewhat embarrassingly in the telling I ate - was canned tuna fish, with pickles, a spoon of bovril, grated cheese and tomato sauce. Dave couldn't come near me for 2 days... not all together a bad thing - I love you honey!)
Then 6 days before he was born I got an Orange craving. I think I must have eaten around 6-7 oranges a day for the last week before he was born. And afterwards, I couldn’t go NEAR an orange for about 14 months - I have always liked oranges.. there you go.. so you know - YOUR cravings are relatively normal in the face of charcoal, laundry detergent, weird fish and pickles and fruit cravings and the like. Your body will tell you what it wants whether you like it or not - just be sensible in how you deal with it. Oh, and folic acid is STILL pretty important so get a supplement if you can.
I carried well, I had him - child birth will be another PAINFUL yet necessary - for me at least ;-) topic.
No worries...
Then I had Abby and Josh. And I am so blessed...
By 3 months I was a big as I ever got with Nathan. Then I just got bigger - and I don't mean fat. I had mild morning sickness - nothing hectic, and actually only in my size 10 pants that I'd slimmed down for the festive season.
In all honesty, I was wearing them and not feeling too great on Dec 25th 2002 at my brother in laws place. On the morning of dec 26th, I couldn't do them up by half an inch... I had gone to bed early, hardly eaten a thing and wondered what it could be.
My infinitely intelligent, empathetic and caring sister in law – Casey - pulled me to one side as I came out of the loo looking a bit green (she has 3 kids herself) and said in a kind/sad/happy/wondering/whatcha-thinking way.. 'You DO know you're pregnant Lau?' ... and suddenly things made sense.
SO we tootled off to the doctor for a check up and ultra-sound, and she stared at the monitor with a very serious face.
.. by this stage we had had 2 ectopics - 1 before Nathan and one after him when I lost my right tube, so I prepared myself for the worst and started getting all teary. Dave was VERY manly and my angel of support and held my hand and stroked my head. He said to her, 'so is this going to require another operation?' and she said, 'please hold on, I will give you my findings in a few minutes.'
I think if Dave had had it in him to wring the truth out of her he would - well he did and does, but I was hanging onto him too tight..
Finally she looked at us, she frowned, and then she said... 'are you prepared for a multiple-birth, you have twins.'
Well Dave sat down. I went totally blank, and then I heard a shaky whisper from Dave, 'I'm here, honey... I just don't know what to do.' If I hadn’t been lying down I may have ended up on the floor - we had seen a woman with twins on our way to the ultrasound and VERY jokingly laughed about how on EARTH people could cope with more than one baby at a time.... ah, well.... there you go - but look what I GOT!!! 2 OF THE MOST PRECIOUS LITTLE THINGS.
... I advance to fast... for those of you expecting small ones in more than a package of one - your hips WILL give out, so if you go shopping or anywhere for prolonged periods, either lean on a trolley or take a walking stick - seriously. You may or may not fit into normal public bathrooms, so start getting used to going to the disabled loos now - you will need them when you are out shopping with twins and you need to do a nappy change and have to take the trolley in with you - which you will.
... expect people to start peering at you and looking at you with alarm as though you are about to pop any minute - you might
-- don't EVER allow yourself to make to mortal error of accidentally dropping your Evian water bottle on the floor at Starbucks, as you WILL panic the patrons - the staff are great
... oh, so much to tell.. ask away in comments and I will be happy to answer, and will add to these posts as I go - if there's interest... of course I will anyway for me and d and the kids - this is like THE easiest way to keep a diary that won’t get flushed down the loo, used as an experiment in pyrotechnics, or just tossed out in the frantic attempt at house cleaning I do - Dave hates it - I keep throwing vital things away... I'm working on it....
I LOVED being pregnant with Nathan.
No morning sickness, which I have seen in others and is a total nightmare. NO weird pregnancy craving (there are more informative pregnancy craving articles out there, I just find this particularly funny... THOUGH I did have one evening where what I wanted - and incidentally and somewhat embarrassingly in the telling I ate - was canned tuna fish, with pickles, a spoon of bovril, grated cheese and tomato sauce. Dave couldn't come near me for 2 days... not all together a bad thing - I love you honey!)
Then 6 days before he was born I got an Orange craving. I think I must have eaten around 6-7 oranges a day for the last week before he was born. And afterwards, I couldn’t go NEAR an orange for about 14 months - I have always liked oranges.. there you go.. so you know - YOUR cravings are relatively normal in the face of charcoal, laundry detergent, weird fish and pickles and fruit cravings and the like. Your body will tell you what it wants whether you like it or not - just be sensible in how you deal with it. Oh, and folic acid is STILL pretty important so get a supplement if you can.
I carried well, I had him - child birth will be another PAINFUL yet necessary - for me at least ;-) topic.
No worries...
Then I had Abby and Josh. And I am so blessed...
By 3 months I was a big as I ever got with Nathan. Then I just got bigger - and I don't mean fat. I had mild morning sickness - nothing hectic, and actually only in my size 10 pants that I'd slimmed down for the festive season.
In all honesty, I was wearing them and not feeling too great on Dec 25th 2002 at my brother in laws place. On the morning of dec 26th, I couldn't do them up by half an inch... I had gone to bed early, hardly eaten a thing and wondered what it could be.
My infinitely intelligent, empathetic and caring sister in law – Casey - pulled me to one side as I came out of the loo looking a bit green (she has 3 kids herself) and said in a kind/sad/happy/wondering/whatcha-thinking way.. 'You DO know you're pregnant Lau?' ... and suddenly things made sense.
SO we tootled off to the doctor for a check up and ultra-sound, and she stared at the monitor with a very serious face.
.. by this stage we had had 2 ectopics - 1 before Nathan and one after him when I lost my right tube, so I prepared myself for the worst and started getting all teary. Dave was VERY manly and my angel of support and held my hand and stroked my head. He said to her, 'so is this going to require another operation?' and she said, 'please hold on, I will give you my findings in a few minutes.'
I think if Dave had had it in him to wring the truth out of her he would - well he did and does, but I was hanging onto him too tight..
Finally she looked at us, she frowned, and then she said... 'are you prepared for a multiple-birth, you have twins.'
Well Dave sat down. I went totally blank, and then I heard a shaky whisper from Dave, 'I'm here, honey... I just don't know what to do.' If I hadn’t been lying down I may have ended up on the floor - we had seen a woman with twins on our way to the ultrasound and VERY jokingly laughed about how on EARTH people could cope with more than one baby at a time.... ah, well.... there you go - but look what I GOT!!! 2 OF THE MOST PRECIOUS LITTLE THINGS.
... I advance to fast... for those of you expecting small ones in more than a package of one - your hips WILL give out, so if you go shopping or anywhere for prolonged periods, either lean on a trolley or take a walking stick - seriously. You may or may not fit into normal public bathrooms, so start getting used to going to the disabled loos now - you will need them when you are out shopping with twins and you need to do a nappy change and have to take the trolley in with you - which you will.
... expect people to start peering at you and looking at you with alarm as though you are about to pop any minute - you might
-- don't EVER allow yourself to make to mortal error of accidentally dropping your Evian water bottle on the floor at Starbucks, as you WILL panic the patrons - the staff are great
... oh, so much to tell.. ask away in comments and I will be happy to answer, and will add to these posts as I go - if there's interest... of course I will anyway for me and d and the kids - this is like THE easiest way to keep a diary that won’t get flushed down the loo, used as an experiment in pyrotechnics, or just tossed out in the frantic attempt at house cleaning I do - Dave hates it - I keep throwing vital things away... I'm working on it....
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